This originally was in response to a post on jenthemom but recently a close acquaintance was "venting" and so was I. I think this is a good reminder to communicate with your spouse.
I think women get caught up in the fairy tale and plan how things "Should be". Unfortunately we don't let our husbands in on it. They are supposed to read our minds. Really would you want your husband reading your mind all the time.
Instead of focusing on how things "should be", we need to acknowledge how things are, enjoy the present and the progress we have made so far. Goals are good. They are a destination but sometimes you need to see the attractions on the way.
Marriage is hard enough without meeting others expectations. I got so many for myself.