Communication is the key, not ESP

This originally was in response to a post on jenthemom but recently a close acquaintance was "venting" and so was I. I think this is a good reminder to communicate with your spouse.

I think women get caught up in the fairy tale and plan how things "Should be". Unfortunately we don't let our husbands in on it. They are supposed to read our minds. Really would you want your husband reading your mind all the time.

Instead of focusing on how things "should be", we need to acknowledge how things are, enjoy the present and the progress we have made so far. Goals are good. They are a destination but sometimes you need to see the attractions on the way.

Marriage is hard enough without meeting others expectations. I got so many for myself.

I'm not a bum, I'm a mum

I was at my son's school picking him up from kindergarten. As I looked around I noticed all of the yummy mummies picking up their children. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others, but I couldn't help but feel a little inadequate. I was in my snot covered green t-shirt and jeans, my signature ponytail, an unmakuped (is that a word) face. I have discovered that I have the "haggard Mother" look down. At least I was clean, I did manage to fit a shower in before 3:15 pm. That doesn't always happen. Somewhere along the line I traded in primping for sleeping.

I lost my inner goddess somewhere between the I dos and the birth of my first child. I think it al started with the vomiting that pregnancy brings and made a fast downspiril when I started to wear my husbands clothes because baby made it impossible for mine and maternity clothes were too expensive. Unfortunately it didn't stop there. After having baby #1 I continued to wear his clothes not really thinking it mattered. I've been dressed this way for almost 5 years now and I think its time I looked more like a girl. I need some instruction for my new looseand deflated body and have been tempted to nominate myself for "What Not to Wear" on TLC The only problem is I don't want any closet shots my room is a mess and if they did that they might as well bring along "Clean Sweep".

A rose by any other name...

I sat for a while trying to come up with a clever name for my blog. I wanted it to say something about me. I tried alyson's life but I thought that might be too boring. Looking at other blogs I thought I could copy theirs like al the mom or al's blog or even ally (but I have never been an ally and I don't thing it suits me). All of these ideas lacked originality. I wanted something that could capture all aspects of my life, my family, my interests. Finally I looked right in front of me and there was a New Testament Student Study Guide.

I'm hardly comparing myself to the Bible, although I may get a little religious, but like the Bible I'm sure I will cover political, family, and religious topics. But most of all this is a testament to my life. Eventually when the creative juices are flowing I may change it but until the this isn't The New Testament it's A New Testament.

I wonder what would have happened if there was an apple in front of me instead of a study guide.